Recipe For Success: 5 Ways You Could Self-Sabotage And How Not To

We’re all looking for the recipe for success, right?

That one perfect path to take that leads right to the pot of gold.

Sorry, toots. I’m here to tell you that the one perfect path is different for everyone. Why? Because what you learn along your journey is going to shape and mold you into the business owner that you’re supposed to be.

The path that you take to reach success is perfect for you. And, the path that I take to reach success is perfect for me.

Now, that being said, our paths to success do have something in common. In fact, the real recipe for success is actually just one ingredient.


Basically, grit means your level of willingness to keep trying even after failure.

Dr. Angela Duckworth, a psychologist, and researcher at the University of Pennsylvania did a study to see if she could identify what makes people successful.

She and her team discovered that the only thing that successful people had in common that was different from unsuccessful people was grit. In other words, their willingness to continue trying.

Her TED talk is wildly popular and so worth watching.

I absolutely LOVE everything about this video and Dr. Duckworth’s research because it basically means that success is inevitable … if you don’t quit.

All of your hard work, sacrifice, and crying in the shower will pay off. If you just keep trying. Just keep taking action every day towards your goals.

That’s the real recipe for success … never give up.

What Are Barriers To Success In Business?

In large businesses, there are clear barriers to success that *most* CEOs try to avoid. Many of these barriers also apply to being a solopreneur.

For instance, poor time management and not taking action due to fear of failure. While CEOs have large teams to support them, they also are at the helm of a business and are trying to manage a lot of moving parts.

The same barriers to success in large corporations can also plague ‘the little guy’. In fact, as a solopreneur you likely don’t have anyone on your team who can keep you grounded.

In other words, it is easier for you to sit and marinade in your fear and never take action. Does that sound familiar? Have you been thinking about an idea for your business but, haven’t taken action yet because you’re scared?

You’re not alone girl.

So many of us have this calling. This voice that yells from our chest and says “You’re meant for something bigger. Don’t waste this opportunity. You can do this. Just step out of your comfort zone and take a chance”.

But, then that witch in our head starts saying things like, “You better do some more research to see if anyone else is doing this too. It’s probably a good idea to buy that course because you’re not ready yet. You might want to rewrite all of your goals and tasks in a different planner that this person is using because they’re uber-successful.”

Is any of this resonating with you?

Each one of those thoughts is a barrier that you are putting up. You are literally building an obstacle course between yourself and financial freedom.

Stop it.


Find a person in your life who believes in you and send them a Marco Polo video every day with the updates of your progress and how you’re feeling about your business.

Start a journal and write each night before you go to bed. Tell your journal all about how your day went, how you felt, and what you want to get done the next day.

Find time each day to practice growth mindset exercises

What Is A Growth Mindset?

A growth mindset is believing that dedication plus hard work is the recipe for success. In other words, if you keep trying, you will succeed.

You don’t need to be smarter, have more time, or wait until you can afford that one course.

You just need to keep trying. Just continue to take daily action towards your goals and you will succeed.

A growth mindset can help tremendously in breaking down those barriers to success. And, after you have practiced maintaining a growth mindset, it can even prevent you from putting those barriers up in the first place.

Your mindset shapes your attitude and perspective. A fixed mindset is one that believes something has defined limitations – you are either good enough or you are not.

A growth mindset is one that believes something is fluid and has no limitations – you are always learning and growing and you have something to give at every stage.

By focusing on maintaining a growth mindset you are opening yourself up to the idea that, even as a beginner, you have something to offer your audience.

Can you see how powerful that can be?

How much confidence and growth could you achieve if you brought your audience the skills and gifts you have without ever worrying about not being enough?

A growth mindset can be transformative both for the business owner and the business itself.

So, how do you change your mind?

How do you have a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset?

First, understand that it is scientifically possible to change your brain …. 

Then, harness the power of yet

Finally, practice on a daily basis …

Why is it important to have a growth mindset?

Not only is this an extremely powerful way to think about yourself but, it is also an important way to think about your business.

In other words, your business is not “unbuilt” and then “built”. It’s not like you can launch your business and it will never be any different than it is on launch day.

This kind of mindset holds you back.

Can you think of how?

It limits your perspective on how much you have achieved and how much value you are delivering. If you’re always thinking of your business as “unbuilt” and, working towards getting it “built”, then you are never acknowledging how far you have come.

Take a growth mindset perspective.

Your business is always growing, evolving and changing. You have achieved wonderful things and are giving your audience tremendous value. And, you have so much more to learn and share.

How To Use The Recipe For Success While Growing Your Business

As a solopreneur, you are in a class all your own in the business world. Yes, you will face similar challenges as a CEO. But, there are a few challenges that all solopreneurs will come up against because of the nature of the work environment.

Working by yourself or with a small virtual team will create an environment that makes it very easy to struggle. To revert back to a fixed mindset when under stress and get lost in the fear and doubt.

So, what can you do?

If the real recipe for success is to never give up … how can you make sure that the barrier to success don’t make it too damn hard!?

You can implement what I call safety nets.

These are the little micro-plans that you figure out in advance and set them into motion when the need arises.

Fear of Failure

Whether you quit your 9 to 5 to focus on your business full-time or, you have your very first client call – being scared that you will fail is completely natural.

Every solopreneur faces their share of ‘fear of failure’.

But, here’s the thing.

If you don’t build your dream … someone else will hire you to build yours. The fact is, you can fail at either! Wouldn’t it be better to fail at one piece of your own business than fail at one piece of someone else’s?

At least when you succeed in your business YOU reap all the benefits.

Safety Net

Have a budget for your household and your business. Set a benchmark for how much money you need to earn each month. How many clients does that equal? Set some monthly metrics in your business so you know what you need to reach.

If that client call goes bad, you can check your metrics and rest-assured that you’ve got several more chances to get one right.

Shiny Object Syndrome

Basically, shiny object syndrome means being distracted.

For instance, you’re working on figuring out your content strategy for your new website launch and you remember reading in a Facebook Group about a great template that would help you organize your thoughts.

You open Facebook on your phone and navigate to the group.

And, 30-minutes later you close Facebook on your phone and go make a sandwich because you have completely forgotten what you were doing on Facebook in the first place.

Sound familiar?

Or, you buy a course on Facebook ads because you read to dive-in. But, then you get an email about this new course on how Facebook Groups will explode your traffic so, you buy that one. And, then you get an email from an online business owner who you love and they have a webinar coming up about list building, which you have been meaning to focus on. So, you sign up for the webinar and at the end of it is a pitch for their list-building course.

I think you see where this is going.

Shiny Object Syndrome can be devastating to your budget and to your schedule. Not to mention that complete overwhelm is a leading cause of quitting.

Safety Net: 

Take one day per quarter to plan out your goals, objectives and tasks. Your goals should be directly related to the top themes in your business. And, your themes should be directly related to increasing your revenue. For instance, a new blogger would have themes like pageviews for ad revenue, sponsored posts, affiliate marketing.

Quarterly planning would include identifying objectives that support those themes. Things like, guest posting (pageviews), media kit (sponsored posts), built affiliate plan (affiliate marketing). Then, the goals for each month would support the objective for that month.

So, month one of quarter one the objective is guest posting. The goals for that month would all be related to that objective. And, if the shiny object that is sparkling in your eyeballs doesn’t support or help further those goals … move on. The recipe for success in business is to never give up.

And, getting overwhelmed by shiny object syndrome will make that VERY hard. So, stick to your plan. Take consistent daily action towards your objectives, goals, and themes.

Fear Of Missing Out (FOMO)

Fear of Missing Out is the desire to stay closely in touch with what other people are doing. This can actually influence your shiny object syndrome because you are always trying to keep up with other solopreneurs.

But, the really scary part of a fear of missing out is that it can cause you to compare yourself to others.

Comparing yourself and your business to other people and their businesses can damage not only your success and progress but, also your confidence.

And, if there is one thing that a solopreneur needs to realize the true recipe for success … it’s confidence.

Remember, the recipe for success is to never give up.

Being confident in yourself and the stage that you are at in your business is crucial to never giving up.

Safety Net:

First, you have to be ferocious about protecting your time. That means using productivity improvement tools to automate processes and keep yourself focused.

It’s like if you’re trying to stop eating sugar – you don’t have Little Debbie snacks in the house.

Protect your time and stay focused on your action plan.

Second, stick with a growth midnset and celebrate your wins.

Like I said before, when you have a fixed mindset, you aren’t giving yourself the opportunity to acknowledge everything that you have achieved.

Don’t look at your business and say, “I have so much to do before it’s right”

Look at your business and say, “I have accomplished so much and am providing my audience with tremendous support and value”

It’s not always about you!

Turn your perspective away from yourself and your business and think about how you are caring for the people who land on your website or are reading your blog posts.

Time Management

The cool thing about letting go of FOMO and Shiny Object Syndrome is that you have so much more time to dedicate to your business!

Having a time management plan is integral to laying a foundation that your business can grow from. Using productivity improvement tools and identifying your ideal work week will help you to get more done even if you’re working less.

Effectively managing your time doesn’t just mean leveraging your minutes into serious progress. It also means not overworking yourself and burning out.

Self-care, unplugging, and taking time off are key time management metrics just the same as time blocking and using a planner or project management software.

Safety Net:

Stick to your theme > objectives > goals > daily actions plan. Don’t get caught under the ‘busy blanket’. Make sure that you are automating what you can and outsourcing what you can afford. You should always be asking yourself “is this important for me to do right now?” and “how will this help me further the themes of my business?”


When you’re scared to fail … it’s easy to procrastinate. You start telling yourself all kinds of stories about how you can do something because ________ or why doing that thing would be a bad idea because of ________.

But, you already have a safety net in place for fear of failure. So, let’s add one for procrastination!

My MOST FAVORITE safety net for procrastinating is 5-4-3-2-1.

It’s sounds dumb and simple. But, if we think about it from a growth mindset perspective … it’s a wonderful opportunity to learn something new and grow past a seriously limiting habit!

So, what is 5-4-3-2-1?

Basically, it’s a form of metacognition that helps you to trick your brain and change the way that it thinks about a situation.

Cool, right?

This video tells more ….

What is your single biggest barrier to success that you want to move past?


When it comes to growing an online business, it is not unusual to completely freeze because of your own mindset. There are so many ways that you can actually limit or stop your own progress. But, if you know what to look for, it's easier to put a plan into place to make sure you keep a growth mindset, stay productive and grow a successful online business.

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